| The Harder She Comesedited by DL King
 Cleis Press
 
It’s  tempting to think about a collection of lesbian erotica as inconsequential. The  word erotica signals that it’s just about sex – right? The definition of  erotica is that it is literature or art dealing with sexual love. And the word  erotica is based on the Greek word Eros.Eros was  something that the Greek lyric and lesbian poet Sappho wrote about in six  hundred b.c.e. So lesbians writing about desire is as old as the hills.  I kept this in mind when reading The Harder She Comes, an anthology of  Butch/Femme Erotica, edited by DL King and published by Cleis Press in 2012.
         In the book, there are  few new twists on the age old story of desire.   There are bois now – spelled   b-o-i-s – and in this anthology there is a fair amount of polyurethaneappendages and the use of male anatomical terms. In  addition to bois, there are butches, femmes, Charles Bukowski impersonators,  artists turned massage therapists, Harley motorcycle riding fantasy butches –  and written between the lines or at times more explicitly there are moments of  intimacy between women and an analysis of what it all means. While Sappho wasn’t  writing about strap-ons, the topic of desire -- Come then now, dear  goddess, and release me/ From my anguish – to quote a line from Sappho’s  “Hymn To Aphrodite” – is forever fraught.  Readers  should be forewarned (although it probably comes as no surprise), that some of  the stories in this anthology are not for the faint hearted. And some of the  stories are downright –there’s really no other way to say it -- heart-warming.  One such story was entitled The Bucket List and it was written by  Charlotte Dare.  In this story, a woman  falls in love with her neighbor who is in a long-term relationship with another  woman which hasn’t worked for years, if ever.   The woman is 38 and it has long been her fantasy to be lovers with an  older woman.  The object of her desire is  58.  There is a kiss, an affair, a break,  and then a new relationship. Sound familiar? In another story, Rachel Kramer Bussel writing from the point of view of a lesbian  artist turned massage therapist, brings us a piece of dialogue and insight: “One of the other  reasons my friends wanted me to come here is for the sheer pleasure of being  touched.  My girlfriend of twelve years left  me last year and I kept the apartment, the bed, the art. It looks just like  when she left except that she’s moved on, and I haven’t.  It’s hard for me to let people touch me,” she  said, and Marisa knew that it wasn’t just a butch thing, though she’s been with  her share of stone butches and had gotten used to that separation of body and  desire, of control and want; they gave to her in other ways, many other ways.
 In another story, Shanna Germain brings us a tale of a woman  who works at an animal shelter who watches the women who come to the shelter to  adopt pets and says there is a connection between their sexual habits and the  strays they take home:
 Now, girls who pick  Labs, those are good.  German  shepherds.  Huskies. The mixes.  Smart, calm dogs with a fine spirit in their  eyes. Intelligent enough to disarm you.   The ones who will know their own pleasure and want to discover yours…
 …sometimes working  here kills me. I want to take every one of these dogs home and show them  that they’re loved.  But of course, you can only do so much….
 Girls are different. I  don’t want to take any of them home…..I trot off in the morning hours like a  stray who’s slipped off her collar and needs to remember the way freedom feels  as it rushes past her ears.”
 In the end of the story, she meets a woman at the shelter  who she wants to take home.
 At the end of so many of these stories, but not all, girl  gets girl.  After all isn’t that  what lesbian desire is all about?
  
        
          
            
              
                
                  
                    
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